Wellness – A Way of Living

Turning Good Intentions into Action

When in the Pull of a Habit, it’s as if our Self-Awareness goes Temporarily Numb

Quitting Habits When They No Longer Serve You 

Quitting Habits

Habits are largely unconscious behaviour patterns.  Bringing conscious awareness to that which once was unconscious changes the experience altogether. 

To demonstrate this let’s choose the habit of smoking.  People trying to quit smoking know all the arguments and reasons; it is not that they haven’t heard them before.  Now let’s try a different approach to quitting this habit.

Instead of trying to quit, let’s try to begin to smoke with conscious awareness.  To do this we can make a ritual out of smoking – treat it as a special practice. 

What can you do with smoking to make it a ritualistic encounter?  Look to Native Americans – they brought ritualistic consciousness to their tobacco ceremonies.  They brought full awareness to the act.  Smoking was not a casual unconsious act but something that was based in ceremony and ritual.

Whatever you do, do it with awareness.  If your habit is smoking, instead of ‘sneaking’ a smoke, smoke in full awareness.  Smoke and feel the sensations totally, and experience this in complete awareness  Stay completely aware of the whole experience, the good and the bad.   Feel the rush of energy that comes from the nicotine and the smell of the tobacco on your skin.  What is the taste of the smoke in your mouth?  What is the sensation in your chest and lungs? 

As you bring full awareness to your smoking, you stay with it while it serves you, but there will come a time when it no longer serves you.  There will come a time when the benefits are outweighed by the detriments, and then the behaviour drops of its own accord.  You are not trying to quit; it simply drops because it is no longer serving you.

With overeating it is the same thing.  When you try to push the behaviour down, it becomes stronger. You find yourself gulping food as if you could sneak it past the one who is watching.  Eat in full awareness.  Bring your full awareness to every bite, feel the sensations of taste.  Slow down the experience of eating and experience the full taste of each bite.  What happens? Satiation comes easier.  Instead of sneaking this  past your awareness, bring your awareness to it and you will find that satisfaction comes sooner, fullness is felt, and the need for overeating subsides.

Take part in the experience you are drawn to, but do it with absolute awareness.  If it is something you have outgrown, you’ll have the experience, become aware of its lack of value, and that is that.

Not sure if you need a Wellness Coach?  Schedule a Wellness Evaluation Call and decide for yourself. 

Michelle Potvin H.T. Coun.,  

Wellness – A Way of Living

(Connect & Contact on Linked in – http://ca.linkedin.com/in/michellepotvin)

Wellness, a state of mind, body and spirit!

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2010/11/02 Posted by | Behaviours, Change, Lifestyle, Stress, Wellness | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

The Art of Life is a constant Readjustment to our Surroundings!

Path to Change

Adaptability and Change Management

When dealing with change in our lives we need to be capable of “bouncing-back” in a way that encourages not only survival but adaptive growth.

Learning ways to “adapt to change” is essential in change management. Change is a fact of life. If we decide that we will hold on to non-adaptive beliefs and values the end result can be a sense of ‘feeling stuck.’

For people struggling with making lifestyle changes this inability to adapt can have destructive results such as: a breakdown in key relationships, health concerns such as heart attack and/or digestive issues, and substance or alcohol abuse.

So if increasing the ability to adapt has such a positive impact on moving us forward and getting us unstuck then why is it so hard for us to learn to do this?

Well one key reason is that we would have to ‘change’. That word conjures up some degree of fear. Change in our mind may mean ‘giving up’ what we know for something we are unfamiliar with and this can create a ‘fear of the unknown.’

When change comes we tend to treat it with ‘contempt’ and resist it as long as we can, hoping to avoid it, even if it is good for us in the long run, because we feel safer with what is known to us.

My approach to “change” is to recognize it in the context of a grieving process, (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance).

To demonstrate this let’s look at the example of the client who enters Wellness Coaching. They have a sense that things are going to Change and so they go through these stages:

Denial – At first they deny that they have a problem. Everyone else is the problem.

Anger – After the initial first couple of sessions, they begin to experience how difficult it is to change and may feel even angrier. Some clients leave at this point.

Bargaining – In trying to make sense of the demands of changing people resort to bargaining (with a higher power, for example). People will say things like “Oh God! Show me a sign that this is right and I will stay to the end of the program.”

Depression – Depression can set in for some when the difficulty of adapting to the new way of doing something is harder than they thought and may demand more than they think they can give. The clients doubt that they are doing the right thing at this point.

Acceptance – Eventually, if the client can endure the whole program, they begin to develop their new expression and with it some success at changing. They feel that they may be on the right road after all.

Ideally what clients need to achieve is a response whereby when change confronts them their automatic reaction will be to deal with and consciously make a decision to adapt to, or accept the perceived challenge to their current beliefs.

So what can a client do that would help them to adapt more readily to the changes in their life (big and small)?

1. Stop and think. To avoid miscommunication and misinterpretation give yourself time to review situations thoroughly. This will allow you to make informed choices.

2. Think Past Today. Ask yourself “What if?” questions. Think about the consequences of dealing with a situation inappropriately. Ask yourself things like, “What will I lose?” and “What will I gain?” and “How will this choice affect my family and friends and self?” Consider your answers before you act.

3. Be Open to Continuous Learning. Change is a constant in everyone’s life. To meet the demands of change throughout a client’s life they will need to continue to update their knowledge.

4. Seek Help. Every situation can bring change and if you know yourself well you know how you will react. If you are struggling with how you react to some situations because they are just too sensitive then consider that somewhere, someone has successfully dealt with the same situation. Even situations that seem most devastating can be given new hope if there is someone else who can share how they handled it. Perspective is needed to see things clearly. Seek this perspective in those who have been there, done that, and survived to tell the tale.

5. Needs vs. Wants. Look at your needs; those things that must be met for your survival. Ask yourself this question: “Is my reaction an attempt to meet a personal need in a healthy manner, or is it an attempt to keep things the same?” If I am meeting my needs, than I am adapting to the challenges that come my way. And adaptation is key to my survival.

Thinking carefully and mindfully using these skills has helped many clients to make positive choices in situations requiring adaptive change and problem solving.

Title Quote attributed to Kakuzo Okakaura.

Not sure if you need a Wellness Coach?

Schedule a Wellness Evaluation call and decide for yourself.

Michelle Potvin H.T. Coun.,

Wellness – A Way of Living

(Connect & Contact on Linked in – http://ca.linkedin.com/in/michellepotvin)

Wellness, a state of mind, body and spirit!

2010/10/29 Posted by | Change, Lifestyle, Stress, Wellness | , , | 1 Comment

Wellness Coaching – How Can We Help

Overwhelmed with stress? Facing change in your life?
Wellness Coaching can help you regain your balance.

Turning Intentions into Action

Wellness Coaches support their clients in creating lifestyle changes such that they get more of their definition of wellness into their lives.

How is this accomplished?
1) We help you find your own answers by listening to your concerns and understanding what’s important to you; facilitating your self-discovery process; and helping you define what wellness means to you.

2) We help you empower yourself to ‘take-action’ by providing you tools for motivation; supporting you to embrace the unknown; and working with you to set goals as part of a self-sustaining plan for lifestyle change.

3) We help you to integrate ‘your choices’ by supporting you during the transition process; helping you to review and re-evaluate at each stage of change; and celebrating your successes with you.

Not sure if you need a Wellness Coach?
Schedule a free Wellness Evaluation call and decide for yourself.

Michelle Potvin H.T. Coun.
Wellness – A Way of Living

In the end what matters most is – How well did you Live, How well did you Love, How well did you Learn to Let Go. Buddha

2010/10/27 Posted by | Change, Lifestyle, Stress, Wellness | , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

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